Return to You: A Self-Love Journey.

When you can’t hold it together anymore life will send you subtle signs when it’s time to come home to yourself, when you’ve been ignoring your body, your emotions, your needs, your wants and your dreams for too long.

You can start to feel exhausted, deflated, burnt out and emotional and yet you keep trying to hold everything together. You keep pushing through, suppressing and ignoring the whispers of your body, mind and spirit.

We first have the crumbling oracle card and it’s asking you what are you clinging onto?

Where are you trying to keep things together holding the fort in the expense of your own needs, energy and health ? You may find that taking care of yourself feels selfish and yet it is the most natural and important thing you need to do, to take care of you.

So, when things are crumbling around you when life feels too heavy to hold, when you can’t carry the weight anymore, when you’re tired of smiling, when you’re mentally and emotionally and physically exhausted it’s not a symptom. It’s a message. It’s time to take care of yourself.

Flowers need water to bloom and so do you.

Along with the crumbling card. we’ve got deep replenishment oracle card and this is all about retreating, learning to rest and being held. Immersing yourself in the waters of healing and self-care, finding a space of stillness, a space where you don’t have to do or be somebody that you’re tired of being.

It’s an unplugging of the world and plugging back into yourself where you don’t have to do anything in this space but just rest, to just be and recharge. Leave your phone and focus on your breath. Go for a walk or do yoga. You are the most important person in your life and when you take care of yourself you can take care of those around you. This is your first step on your self-care, self-love journey.

Permission to rest, switch off from the world and technology to recharge.

Remember you don’t have to earn rest. You are allowed to say no, to switch off and take care of you like you take care of others.

Reflection prompts:

What is exhausting my body mind and soul right now?

How can I switch off and honour my exhaustion with deep replenishment and rest?

It’s often in the place of replenishment, stillness and rest that you can find clarity,  you begin to see which areas of your life uplifts you, which areas gives you peace and joy and which areas deflate you, exhaust you and maybe don’t align to who you are now and where you want to go in life.

We have the oracle cards peacemaker and regeneration and the message they are bringing is that it’s okay to let the past go. To release the heaviness you’re holding onto within your mind, body and soul.

Know that everything changes. You change, people change, your views change, your energy changes, your needs and dreams change and what you hold onto for so long can exhaust you simply because you have outgrown something that doesn’t align to your energy, future or soul.

As it says on the regeneration card growth is not a betrayal of the past it’s okay to be sad and to grieve but nothing is meant to stay the same forever and this is inviting you to explore what you may need to let go off in order for your own growth, wellbeing, for your own peace for your own happiness.

Sometimes you’re exhausted not because you’re doing too much but because you are doing things that don’t align to your truth. You are soul tired, you’re doing more things that drain you rather than things that make you feel alive.

And it’s the natural progress of life and it’s through life experience that you find growth, you become the next version of yourself. You are allowed to grow, change, and live life that brings you peace and joy.

Change doesn’t happen over night. Some action may be simply more rest, or simply being aware that changes are needed for your wellbeing is enough.

Reflection Prompts:

Which parts of my life are wanting change?

How can I learn to honour the flow and changes of my life ?

Self-love and self-care will always come with need to set boundaries and it’s not surprising that we have the boundaries oracle card for this journey. Boundaries and the harmony card and it’s really a message all about protecting your energy when your recharging. How many times has someone needed you as soon as you sat down and to keep the peace you get up and deal with the situation instead of saying not now? 

People may have been using you, taking advantage of you, your energy and your time. Expecting you to always be there, to pick up the phone, to do something or say something and when you give and give and give and you can’t give any more you become exhausted and burnt out physically, mentally and emotionally where you finally have no choice to unplug and deep replenish your body mind and soul.

Sometimes people cannot honour that need of yours.

Life and people think that you are able to run on 100% energy battery 24/7 and if you’ve not had the voice or confidence to say no or speak up for so long and to put yourself first, people may not like it and can take it personally.

You have to to accept that people won’t like you setting boundaries and saying no and that it’s not about you. If they get upset, let them, don’t keep going back and draining your own energy to keep the peace, to help somebody out, to give somebody what they’re needing from you when they can’t accept what you’re needing from them. Is it easy, no but you need to learn protect your peace, find balance and stillness and it’s hard when we feel our boundaries may have upset somebody but that just goes to show that boundaries were needed to be placed.

These cards message are asking you to reflect on where do you need to set some gentle boundaries to protect your energy, boundaries to honour your self-care needs, whether that’s switching your phone off. Not replying to text messages or saying no to helping somebody. It’s asking you to reflect on who and what drains you for that will show you where boundaries are needed and if you’re triggered by setting boundaries then this message invites you to ask yourself and reflect on why you don’t like setting boundaries or upsetting people with your own boundaries for your wellbeing?

Self-love and care isn’t always bubble baths and a face mask, it is more than often learning to say no, giving yourself permission to walk away, learning to rest without guilt and respecting your self and energy.

Reflection prompts:

Where do I need to place healthy boundaries in my life to honour my energy and wellbeing?

How can I commit to keeping my boundaries when someone tries to override them?

You are on a journey through feeling burnt out and exhausted to connecting back to yourself, nurturing your wellbeing, honouring your energy with gentle boundaries, learning that it’s okay to release the past of what no longer is aligned to you and what maybe keeping you drained and deflated and that it’s okay to change; grow and want different things in life.

The Last oracle cards here is coded seeds and rupture. The message they offer is in the space of nurturing yourself and finding your clarity and honouring your wellbeing needs is the transformation of self love.

A courage to start putting yourself first.

It’s the space where you can remember who you truly are, where you are now, what your beliefs are and your life values. What brings you joy and peace and what needs to change.

What you are going to stop saying yes too when you want to say no by standing in your confidence and putting your wellbeing first?

You maybe called to try new things, to explore new and rediscover old hobbies, go to new places and meet a different community, by taking inspired action and learning to trust your feelings. Explore how a person, a place or a hobby can give you energy and sparks your soul to life is often aligned to your soul and will feel good so follow it, do more of them and if it doesn’t feel exciting or it feels heavy because it’s trendy or somebody dragged you along it might not be for you.

With these cards it’s all about learning to love life again, coming back to what you love. Music, dancing, singing, reading, baking, walking because sometimes healing and deep replenishment isn’t about rest it is about doing more of what you love. Finding the time when you’re too tired to do something which gives you energy and knowing the difference between needing to rest physically and feeling drained because your soul needs joy.

Most of the time you are living in a life where you are drained and exhausted, physically, mentally and emotionally because you aren’t living to your soul truths, to your soul values. You are living in survival mode, you are living accordingly to other peoples needs and energy. Your job, life‘s demands and daily stress and this message is inviting you to bring back your joy, your spark and laughter, the love of life and living even in the midst of stress and chaos and negativity in the world. It’s not bypassing all that you go through or ignoring responsibilities or the flows of highs and lows of life but it’s finding pockets of peace and joy that can heal you and replenish you and uplift you.

Reflection prompts:

Where in my life do I need to embody more joy, more love and more pleasure?

Who am I wanting to become?

A self love Affirmation.

It is my time to become the person who honours her energy and her boundaries with self love and care. Who is learning to let go of the old and step into her empowerment to find the peace and joy of living again.

Self-love is a returning home to you when you are exhausted and deflated in life know it is a calling to love yourself, to nurture your needs and replenish your wellbeing, to set healthy boundaries and to call in more peace and joy into your life.

It may not be a quick journey, you may find there is more rest needed, deeper healing, more courage to take action but know it is ultimately up to you. It is your body, your energy and your life. Love yourself, love life. Never stop learning, growing and becoming the woman you are meant to be. Listen more to your body, your soul and inner voice more than the voices around you. You know you best. You know what you need and only you can give yourself the care that you need and deserve and if that is rest today, a dance around the house tomorrow, letting things go with love, starting a new hobby, saying no to something that drains you and saying yes to what lights you up. Whatever you do know it’s always enough. 

It is time to give yourself the love you deserve.

Donna x

You may like to read my book Awaken your Divine Goddess to support you along your self-love journey.

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